Why Ben Shapiro Hates the new Cardi B and Megan Thee Stallion Song WAP

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On Thursday, August 6th, Cardi B dropped her brand new music video featuring Megan Thee Stallion WAP. In less than a week, the video already has over 76 million views on YouTube. The song is about women getting laid, and although it’s massively popular, conservatives like Ben Shapiro had a problem with it.

I did a poll over on Instagram asking if you all wanted me to cover this topic, and it was an overwhelming yes. And btw, if you’re not yet, follow me on Instagram @TheRewiredSoul because I love interacting with all of you and posting polls to get ideas for upcoming topics.

Personally, growing up with 90s R&B, which later turned into people like Lil Jon and the Yin Yang Twins talking about their exploits, I think it’s about time female sexuality gets a bit more normalized. As a progressive who grew up here in Las Vegas around plenty of sex workers, in my humble opinion, if you’re a woman who wants to get yours, do you, boo.

I’m not alone either. There’s been a lot of talk about the double standard between male and female promiscuity for years, but I feel the majority of liberals and progressives are all about women doing their thing. On the conservative side of the aisle, things are a little bit different.

For those of you who don’t know, Ben Shapiro is a prominent commentator in the conservative community who is held on a pedestal as one of their most “intellectual” speakers. In recent weeks, he’s been talked about quite a bit and not just for his comments on the new music video, but for his ignorant statements about racism and discrimination. Recently, he was on the Joe Rogan show being exhibiting his lack of competence when it comes to the fact that racial disparities still exist in 2020.

If you want to watch an excellent video on this specific subject, I highly recommend you check out the recent video from Some More News titled How Ben Shapiro Pretends Nothing Can be Done About Systemic Racism.

But today, we won’t be talking about Ben Shapiro pretending systemic racism doesn’t exist. We’re going to discuss his commentary on the new track WAP. The other day, he went viral for discussing the song while reading the lyrics, which became an instant meme.


But if you’re like me, during this year of what seems like the apocalypse, the highlight of 2020 has been all of the remixes.


As icing on the cake, Ben Shapiro managed to not only embarrass himself, but his doctor wife as well with the following tweet:

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While this has become a great meme, I wanted to take this opportunity to analyze why Ben Shapiro hates this song through the lens of moral politics. People like you and I find his statements about the new Cardi B and Megan Thee Stallion video ridiculous, but I feel it’s extremely important that as liberals, we try to understand conservative morality. This is crucial because the reality is that it’s an election year, and Ben Shapiro was speaking into an echo chamber of conservatives who 100% agree with what he had to say.

Well, his wife probably didn’t agree with his confusion as to how the female body works.

But, if you saw my previous video on Shane Dawson’s cancellation through the lens of moral politics, you already have a little bit of a better understanding of where liberal and conservative morals lie. Although we may never convince a conservative that the new Cardi B track is morally okay, having a little bit better understanding of conservative morality make it a little bit more possible to get conservatives to align with our political ideals.

So, as we dive into the topic of conservative morality, think of yourself as a spy or secret agent getting into the mind of the other side. If we ever hope to win some of those swing states, we need to have a better understanding of what matters to conservatives as well as what it looks like through their moral lens.

Moral Taste Buds

If you’re like me, you see Ben Shapiro talk, and what he says on most topics seems completely irrational. Many of us get extremely frustrated hearing about his stances on various subjects. In most cases, he comes off as racist, homophobic, and transphobic, but today, we’re going to look at what he said about WAP and how misogynistic his views seem to be.

Shapiro then tries to take the broad topic of feminism and boil it down to an extremely weak argument.

Now, you and I both know that the feminist movement isn’t currently and never was all about a woman’s right to talk about sex in a song. You and I know that since the dawn of time, women have been treated as less than in most societies around the world. Women have had to fight for the right to vote, better jobs, and are still fighting for equal pay. Aside from that, they have to put up with receiving unsolicited dick pics, have to worry about walking alone to their car, and if they’re lucky, they won’t work in an environment where they’re sexually harassed on an hourly basis.

No matter how much you or I may dislike Ben Shapiro, I think it’s important that we accept the fact that he’s not entirely stupid. More importantly, it’s lazy to think that anyone with opposing political views as you is intellectually inferior. While our side prides ourselves in equality and reducing stereotypes, I’m often surprised at how easily we stereotype conservatives. If we hope to make any progress, we need to educate ourselves, use some critical thinking and start understanding their morality a little more.

One of the most cited researchers on moral politics in Jonathan Haidt. His book The Righteous Mind is a bestseller, and he introduces the idea of seeing morality like taste buds. To introduce this idea, he shares a little story:

He then admits that this didn’t actually happen, but he tells this story to get your wheels turning and introduce you to his theory of moral foundations. He breaks them down into the following 6 categories.

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Through his research, Haidt has found that the strongest morals for liberals, or “taste buds”, are for the morality of care/harm, liberty/oppression, and fairness/cheating. For conservatives, their morals are more spread out, and they care a lot more about things we liberals aren’t too passionate about. As you can see from the diagram, the main difference between liberals and conservatives is that conservatives care a lot more about the sanctity/degradation foundation.

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So, in order to have a better understanding of why Ben Shapiro and other conservatives are so appalled by the new Cardi B and Megan Thee Stallion track, we need to understand the sanctity/degradation foundation a little better.

Haidt describes this foundation as, “This foundation was shaped by the psychology of disgust and contamination. It underlies religious notions of striving to live in an elevated, less carnal, more noble way. It underlies the widespread idea that the body is a temple which can be desecrated by immoral activities and contaminants (an idea not unique to religious traditions).”

Disgust is a powerful feeling that we often don’t give too much thought too, but there have actually been a lot of psychological experiments around disgust. In one experiment, they surveyed people in one of two conditions: in an empty hallway or near hand sanitizer. When near hand sanitizer and reminded of cleanliness, people tend to answer questionnaires in a more conservative way as they’re reminded of the sanctity/degradation foundation.

So, now that we know that Cardi B and Megan Thee Stallion made Ben Shapiro feel icky, let’s take a look at another view of moral politics that comes from the American cognitive linguist George Lakoff.

Good Girls Don’t Talk About Sex

If you’re like me, not only were you flabbergasted by Trump’s victory in 2016, but you were blown away at how many women voted for Trump. Then, there are people like Ben Shapiro who have no problem showcasing his misogynistic views, and we wonder how someone like him is married. Well, when we look at morality through a different lens, these answers start to make more sense, and we understand why conservative women aren’t on board with the new Cardi B and Megan Thee Stallion track.

In his book Moral Politics, rather than having a moral foundation approach like Jonathan Haidt, George Lakoff helps explain political morality by making it analogous to parenting. He describes liberals as having a nurturant parent morality while conservatives follow a strict father moral model.

Here’s a list of traits in the strict father model:

  • A belief that children learn through reward and punishment, as in operant conditioning. Corporal punishment, such as spanking, is favored in this model relative to other models.
  • A belief that children become more self-reliant and more self-disciplined by having strict parents.
  • A belief that the parent, particularly the father, is meant to give out rewards for good behavior as well as punish bad behavior.

It’s also important to understand that conservatives are extremely traditional. They believe in a world where the father is the head of the household, and women are there to take care of the children and the home. So, Ben Shapiro and other conservatives believe that WAP is an atrocious song because they don’t view these women as women, they view them as daughters. Also, a major of the strict father model is honor as well, so they believe women are bringing dishonor to the family when discussing activities such as sex.

So, why did so many women vote for Trump, and why do so many women agree with Ben Shapiro? Well, because they have a completely different view of morality. These women are perfectly content with this “traditional” idea of what a woman should be and how a woman should act. Meanwhile, liberals are far more progressive and see woman as independent human beings who should be able to act in whatever way they please.

This also explains why there’s an ongoing debate about which side hosts the most snowflakes: conservatives or liberals. While conservatives call us snowflakes for fighting against racism, misogyny, and discrimination against the LGBTQ community, conservatives are far more sensitive when they’re traditional values trigger their own feelings of disgust.

One of the most recent examples I can think of is when this woman went viral in July for tweeting the following:

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This mother is a white woman, and here profile reads as follows:

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So, during this election season, we can take one of two routes: we can be lazy and think that conservatives are immoral, irrational, and lack intelligence. Or, we can start applying critical thinking to try and understand how conservatives think. As a liberally, I find it hypocritical of our side to throw blanket statements on conservatives, and in my opinion, it makes us no better than Ben Shapiro.

In his interview with Joe Rogan, Ben Shapiro denies systemic racism exists by refusing to believe that a child’s environment molds who they are. You and I know that’s ridiculous. You and I know that with black men being incarcerated at extremely high rates, it’s no wonder there are more fatherless homes in the black community. We also know that Ben Shapiro is wrong to think it’s as simple as a black kid in the hood to sell drugs or join a gain.

We know that how you’re raised shapes who you are and what is normal for you. So, we need to extend this to conservatives as well. When a person is raised in a conservative household, they’re going to be molded to have conservative morals. And unfortunately, kids raised in a racist or misogynistic household is going to be molded to have racist and misogynistic views. But you and I are better critical thinkers than Ben Shapiro, and we know that if we hope to change minds, we need to have mature conversations and practice some empathy.

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